3 November 2019
Learning To Communicate When You're Nervous
We've all been there, stuck in a big meetings or at lunch with your manager & last week I was in that position. I had a crucial interview which depending on how well in went meant whether I got into the College Of Education for 2020. You want to show that you're confident & in control, even if you're feeling less than. So I thought, better now than ever to talk about communicating when you're full of nerves. Here are some of the tips that I found super helpful so I thought maybe they'll help some of you too.
Maintain Eye Contact
Don't look away because you are nervous, holding someones gaze communicates that you see them as an equal & that you're comfortable speaking with them. Make sure that you're not looking down at the floor when you're speaking & find people's eyes around the table.
Sit Up Straight
Don't slouch! Square your shoulders & lift your chin to show your engaged!
Picking at your jumper, nail biting, playing with jewellery - stop it! You're putting your nerves on display.
Strike A Pose
Power pose, that is. Take a minute to power pose in the bathroom if you can't in the meeting itself, research says that doing these for a few minutes beforehand will make you feel more confident!
Getting nervous & speeding up your speech can sometimes go hand in hand. Try to pace yourself & don't try to say too much too fast. Rambling is a surefire giveaway that you're not comfortable.
Sometimes the best way to relax is to feel you're among friends. Tell a coworker how much you enjoyed their presentation or their new idea. Remember everyone gets nervous - doing this only makes you look like a team player but also makes it more likely that someone will back you in this way also.
What are some of the ways you like to remain confident when you've go a nerve racking meeting or interview? It's not always easy, that's for sure!