27 February 2020

Favourites #01 For 2020

The past two months have flown by & I'm excited to share with you all the things I've been loving over the past couple of months! I am changing things up in regards to how often I post my 'Favourites'.

I was posting monthly but I felt that it was too often & I just didn't have much to share from month to month so I'm hoping that posting every other month will give me a chance to find more amazing things to share with you all.

Content Creators
Rachal Aust, Riley Hemson, Rhian HY, Meghan Rienks, Lily Marston, Ellie Haines, Cindy Guentert-Baldo, Julie, Soph, Emma Johnston, & Kathryn June.

Kawakawa Balm, Essano Body Lotion, Revolution Duo Brow Pencil, Hawraw Lip Balm, Linden Leaves Hand Cream, & All The Wild Things Lush Soap.

Pause, Breath, Smile: Awakening Mindfulness When Mediation Is Not Enough by Gary Gach, So Brilliantly Clever: Parker, Hulme & The Murder That Shocked The World by Peter Graham, My Story: A Child Called It, The Lost Boy & A Man Named Dave 3 In 1 by Dave Pelzer.

TV Series
YOU Season 2, Vampire Diaries.

What have you been loving so far this year? Let me know!

B x

25 February 2020

Habits I've Formed That Have Made Me Happier

Unlocking the secret to happiness is one of life's biggest questions. While we may assume it's the big things - a new house, a job promotion, marriage - that bring contentment, it's often actually the little things that boost your happiness more significantly. And over time, I've learnt that having healthy daily habits has made my life easier & improved both my physical & mental well-being. From switching up my morning routine to organising my wardrobe to getting lost in a good book, these are habits I've formed that have made me a happier person. And while everyone is different, hopefully they'll inspire you to make some positive changes too!

Drinking Water In The Mornings
Much of exhaustion is linked to dehydration, so instead of heading straight for the coffee when I feel groggy first thing in the morning, I down some water. It instantly makes me feel more awake.

Making My Bed Every Morning
The act of making my bed always starts my day off on a good foot. It always feels like a satisfying accomplishment. A made nest instantly makes your bedroom look tidier & this makes it a joy to come home to at the end of a long day.

Listening To Podcasts On My Commute
Whether it's an informative documentary, laugh-out-loud comedy or insightful interview, podcasts always cheer up a dreary commute.

Reading Before Bed
We all know the blue light emitted via electronic devices wakes up the brain & disrupts sleep. Reading a book does the opposite. Cracking on with a good book every night definitely makes me happier than aimlessly scrolling through social media.

Using The Pomodoro Method While Working
This method requires you to work on one task at a time in 25 minute bursts. The key is to remove all distractions for this period, distracting tabs, social media, your phone, then break for five minutes before starting again. When feeling unmotivated & unproductive this method is such a huge help for getting all the tasks done.

Cooking On Sundays
Batch cooking a healthy meal on Sunday means I always have a nutritious meal in the fridge for when I run out of time to make lunch or dinner during the week.

B x 

23 February 2020

Simple Steps For Making 2020 Your Year

I get it, we're getting close to the end of February & you're probably thinking that this is something that I should've posted a couple of months ago. But I don't believe that the New Year has to be the only time we can start making changes & setting goals, what's stopping us from doing that now or mid-year? I think it's important to remember that we can set new goals & challenges any time of the year, when we're ready to.

With that being said, if you've had a rough start to 2020 or maybe you're in a position now where you want to start thinking about new goals & the challenges you want to set yourself this year, here are four simple tips to making 2020 your year.

Choose Your Word
Start off by thinking of a word for the year. It's a simple exercise but I feel as if it can help set a theme for the year you want. Maybe you've noticed something that's lacking in you life? Maybe your word could be ambitious, or confident, or fearless? All you need to do is repeat that word whenever you feel you need a wee reminder of what you want out of this year.

Choose An Emotional/Mental Goal
Emotional development is an important one & something you need to continuously work on to improve. I know it's something that I can always improve on which is why I set at least one goal that is rooted in emotion. Maybe you want to work on your communication skills or learn to deal with stress better. Once you set yourself a goal, I recommend keeping track of your progress but also in the little ways you're improving too.

Get Physical
Now I don't necessarily mean go & run a marathon unless that is something you do want to do. There are so many different ways to get your body moving that are just as beneficial. Make an investment to yourself in that way & maybe that is working out three times a week or maybe it's adding yoga & stretching into your morning routine. Whatever it may be, make that investment to yourself.

Planning & Getting Ahead
Of course I'd talking about planning in one way or another but I believe that planning ahead can be extremely beneficial to claiming your success. With timed slots for everyday you can create an actionable timed to-do list, with a monthly overview you can stay on top of your goals, events & appointments & with any spare note pages, you're able to fill them with whatever you feel is needed.

B x 

20 February 2020

Being Productive With No Motivation

We've all been there. That lousy place where the thought of a glaring task is killing any motivation you have to complete it. To top it off, procrastination, pretending to be your friend has gotten you nowhere. So what's a girl to do? Here are some steps that might just help you get back to work.

Change Your Environment
Get up & go somewhere different. Even if you are crunched for time, go grab a coffee or even a elevator ride down to reception & back. A change of scenery can change your state of mind.

Get Some Exercise
If you aren't working on a tight deadline, to get your head back in the game try going for a brisk walk. Doing some kind of exercise can help with productivity & a reset of perspective.

Break Larger Tasks Into Small Bit Size Pieces
If you have so much to do & haven't even started yet, it can be overwhelming. Start small & celebrate little mile stones. One little step at a time.

Give Yourself A Time Limit
Set a timer & see what you can accomplish in 30 minutes. Put your phone away & keep only the tabs you need open on your computer. Keep your head down & work without allowing yourself to be distracted. It's just 30 minutes. When your timer goes off, see how far you've come & feel good about the progress you are making. Take a quick break & do it again.

B x 

18 February 2020

A Few Acts Of Self Love That Will Transform Your Life

We all have our weakness. I for one, can be a complete control freak. Even I find myself annoying at times & although I've come along way, I'm still learning how to let go of that need to have control of EVERYTHING & there are valuable lessons I've learnt along the way.

It's easy for me to criticise or blame myself; majority of the time I do it without even realising it. I'm sure it's something many of you can relate to. Being kind, loving & understanding with myself didn't come as easy. Why? Because for a lot of us it's a habit. We put ourselves down without even thinking about it most of the time.

Ditch Your Desire To Be Perfect
Perfectionism can feel like a trap. When you're a perfectionist, you feel that strong need to be in control of your emotions. At some point, you stop acknowledging your accomplishments because there is always that voice in your head telling you that you could've done a better job. It's just like having that all or nothing attitude, where unless you get 100%, you get nothing. It's you, spending more time about worrying about failing than you do focusing on what it is you're trying to accomplish.

Setting Healthy Boundaries
These are very important, in any kind of relationship whether it's personal or professional. A lot of us are taught from the young age to put others first. We then grow up & often get lost in putting everyone else first but ourselves. Setting up healthy boundaries has changed a lot for me. 

I love helping other people, coming up with solutions, solving problems & I never saw anything wrong with the fact that I was a great listen but didn't do much of the talking myself. Over the years, people got use to me being there for them, ready to help where I could but I rarely heard a thankyou. Don't get me wrong, I don't help people to get anything in return but there was a point where I got lost & no longer knew where others' lives ended & mine began.

Saying no has always been so damn hard but when I hit a low point in my life, I simply had no more to give which it reality the only answer could be no.

Selfish definitely isn't the right word, but I guess it's what it felt like to begin with. I started setting boundaries & being careful about giving my energy away others - it was life changing. Think of it this way - when you give yourself the opportunity to be the best version of yourself, you can then take that love & wisdom & spread it around the people you love. If instead, you spend your life sacrificing yourself, ignoring your own needs, plans & dreams, you might never give yourself a chance to get to that point.

Be Good To Yourself
Be good to your body, mind & soul. These are some of the best ways to practice self-love. Watch the way you talk to yourself, be gentle. A lot of the feelings we have towards ourselves are reflections of past relationships. If someone close to you offends you enough or is too hard on you, eventually you start to believe what they say. I grew up with a father that was all about trying harder, not working hard enough & perfectionism. It was difficult & because of that, it took me forever to learn how to look after myself.

Self-care, self-love are things I stress a lot here on my website & I do it because I remember how I use to treat myself as a teenager. There is nothing wrong with a constant need to do better, to grow, to try new things, to learn & wanting to become a better person. But as you grow & learn, remember to stop along the way & tell yourself that you've done a good job so far. Look back at how far you've come & don't be too hard on yourself. Loving yourself isn't selfish. It's not about thinking that you're better than someone else. It is, however, a lot more than just accepting yourself too.

B x 

16 February 2020

Understanding How To Move & Manipulate Energies

Along my spiritual & awareness journey I've learnt a lot but learning about energies has been the most interesting. It's one of those topics that there will always been something new to learn or aspect you haven't heard about before. While I don't believe I'm at the stage where I can freely talk about it myself, I did stumble across a beautifully written post on goop.com that will help answer any questions you haven & set a good foundation for your knowledge on our world full of varying energies.

"Energy is a palpable, animating life force - one that we can all understand in the context of how we feel from day-to-day (sluggish, over-tired, or on the flip side, invincible). Usually we attribute our low energy days to lack of sleep or bad food. But it's significantly more complicated than that, according to therapist Aimee Falchuk, who believes that our energetic systems might very well be impacted by physical, emotional & cognitive blocks we've picked up from childhood."

Topics such as energy & consciousness, blocked energy, what creates energetic blocks & restoring energetic blocks are all covered in the post & covers some super interesting points I believe we can all learn from & apply to our own lives.

Let me know what you think! 

B x 

13 February 2020

New Year, No Goals

I could've sat & watched everyone's recaps of their achievements for 2019 & that last decade, for days, there were so many. Each made me feel happy & warm on the inside & of course, I'm proud to know that so many amazing people are fulfilling their dreams whether thats over the past decade or just the year.

Although a big part of me couldn't help but think how I couldn't stand to think about my decade, how I spent my time & what I had achieved over the years, I did. The process was uncomfortable at times but I quickly came to realise how beneficial this whole reflection process was. There was a big part of the last decade, where I was just simply trying to survive. Mentally & physically. I think in reality, when you're simply trying to survive, everything else pales in comparison. No achievement, no matter how big or small, could trump survival. I remember being proud that I had just made it through another year. And if all you did this year was survive, know that's enough. You are enough.
Comparison is the mother of all arseholes & she's unavoidable. Of course, when you're going through something like this we're going to look at others, see what they're achieved & feel small, disposable. But it's so important to remember you aren't.

For the longest time I always feared the New Year. That if I hadn't set myself goals, I was setting myself up for immediate failure. For those years where surviving was my ultimate accomplishment, my goal was to simply be. Exist in the moment & try to lift worries from my shoulders as much as possible. I knew I wanted to continue to work hard on myself, my mental health & relationship with those that loved me. Everything else? Well, that was a bonus.

Looking back at those years now, I realised I existed in a world I'd come to appreciated. Those years of just surviving taught me so much & I don't believe I'd be where I am now, had I not been through those moments of just surviving.

If a list of goals isn't what you need to make this year a success, that's okay. If need be, simply just do what you need to do to survive & know that I'll be proud of you know matter what you achieve this year.

B x

11 February 2020

How To Stay On Track After Failure

Sometimes plans fail & dreams seem further away than ever before. It can be hard to pull yourself together & start again. So, how do you stay on track after failure?

Don't Be Too Harsh On Yourself
It's important to realise that everyone fails. It's easy sometimes to forget everyone does experience failure at some point. Often, you'll find that it's because we can't appreciate our own successes & play the good ole comparison game. So, believe in yourself & you will glow!

Be Your Own Cheerleader
Corny I know, but you need to be your own cheerleader! Why put yourself down, when you could give yourself the exact some treatment you would to your best friend. Would you tell your best friend, "You're a loser, you'll never get there." No way! So, next time you're feeling defeated, be kind to yourself & say, "I will get their eventually!"

Failure Is A Lesson Learnt
Reaching success is no straight line. In reality, it's a rocky road with several ups & downs. The ups are easy, but once you're down, & it will happen, you'll learn those valuable lessons about yourself & the sacrifices you're willing to make. Sadly, that doesn't happen overnight but soon you'll realise failure means another lesson & another reason to keep on fighting!

Why Did You Start In The First Place?
When you're wondering if this is all worth the hassle, just think about why you wanted a change or wanted more in the first place!

B x

9 February 2020

A Love Letter To Sundays

I'm not sure what it is about Sunday's but they're my favourite day of the week, I must say, Monday is a close second but there is something about Sunday's that make my heart so happy. It's been that way for as long as I can remember. My Sunday mornings are always so quiet & peaceful. I always make sure Sunday's are fulled with self care & productive tasks.

Sunday's just work best for me when it comes to planning out my week & get any extra admin bits & pieces done but of course, your weekly planning could also be done any day that suits your personal schedule. It's a really good feeling knowing that I have everything planned & organised for the week ahead of me. It also means that my mind isn't all scattered on a Monday morning.

Sunday's I don't typically wear make-up so this is a chance to slick on all my favourite skincare products. Theres nothing better than feeling super fresh going into a new week. And I'll also reach for products such as a hair mask & serum as a little pick me up as I'm nowhere near as kind as my hair as I should be.

Tidy & Organising
While I have my face mask & it's working it's magic then I will potter around the house cleaning & tidying up. I'll water all my house plants, tidy away any dry laundry, vacuum, put away any dishes that have been drying, give the bathroom a quick clean & generally just give my home a spruce up. Going into a new week with the house being clean & tidy is something that I've always loved. Tidy space, tidy mind, right?

What are you favourite things to do on a Sunday? Do you have a specific routine that you follow?

B x

6 February 2020

The Power Of Mantra

We all know what it's like when negative thinking gets the better of us, if it becomes a pattern, it can have a significant impact on our lives. What we think & speak shapes how we feel inside & how we see the world around us.

Like anything, creating new habits takes practice. The following steps with help you to honestly assess what you want to create in your life while crafting an easy mantra for you to recite at any moment. Be open to self-discovery while being clear & sincere with your words so that you can consciously use the power of your thoughts to help come to a healthier perspective.

Something I like to do is to write down 3 to 5 words that express my intentions - what are you refining or calling into your life? Is it trust, courage, creativity, success, balance, confidence?

Then, using the words for inspiration, I write down 3 mantra in the present tense. Start off with whatever firsts comes to your mind & then you can re-write what you intentionally began with until you've whittled it down to something that is uplifting, clean & easy to remember. For example, "I trust the change unfolding in my life," "I welcome clear vision & inspired action," or "Love flows into my life effortlessly."

It's not always easy to begin with so if you need some extra help, consider the following prompts for writing your own mantra. Highlight your current goals around self-care & self-love. Focus on inspiring words around your career or creativity. Boost your confidence & presence in the world. Invoke your ideal home, lifestyle or relationship.

Once you've found your top 3 mantras, put them into action. Write them down with intention & memorise them. Begin each day with repeating your mantras 3 times out loud or silent, choose the one that feels right in the moment. Continue to use them throughout the day, especially when you notice yourself slipping into unhealthy thought patterns.

When you feel out of touch wit your best self, take pause & notice how you've been speaking to yourself. Reshaping your habits around your thoughts & words, both towards yourself & outwardly to others, has incredible results that will directly impact your day to day life.

Let's practice together & reshape our mental chatter into uplifting affirmations so that we can connect to the potent power of our intentions.

B x 

4 February 2020

2 February 2020

Brutally Honest Life Lessons We All Have To Embrace Eventually

I'm a firm believer in tough love. When it comes to figuring things out, I take the sink or swim approach. It can seem a bit harsh at times but this is when we tend to come out better & stronger for it. There are some valuable life lessons to be learned that are easier pills to swallow than others - here are just a few of the brutally honest ones I've learnt all about.

Life's Tough, Get A Helmet
Relationships fail, people can be jerks, you can't always get what you want & at some point in your life, you will have to stand outside in the pouring rain without an umbrella. Accept the fact that life isn't always easy but draw strength from the knowledge that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger & the hard stuff makes you appreciate the good things even more.

If You Want To Play Hard, You Have To Work Hard
It's a pretty simple one really plus it's a trade-off, so deal with it. But if it's any consolation, it's usually worth it.

If You Fuck Up, It's Your Responsibility To Fix It
You're not a kid anymore & no one is going to run behind you with a broom sweeping your mess, nor should they have to. If you make a mistake, it's your obligation to rectify the mistake. As long as you're willing to admit it & embrace the consequences are yours, then it's totally within your capabilities to make things right.

Sometimes You Have To Give People The Benefit Of the Doubt 
Some people don't even always deserve it. And it's never easy to do. And sometimes you give someone the benefit of the doubt & it ends up blowing up in your face. But the best thing ever is when you give someone a chance, reserve your judgement & realise there's a damn good reason for the way they are. You will definitely learn something more about them in the process & you will probably figure some stuff out about yourself too.

School Doesn't Come Close To Teaching You All You Need To Know 
About life, that is. It's obviously valuable for countless logical reasons such as getting a degree, broadening your horizons & so on but it's really just the tip of the iceberg. There is so much more for us to learn & to continue learning, it doesn't just stop once you leave school.

B x